Breaking up with someone, no matter how good or bad the relationship was, is a difficult thing to go through. Whether you’re left longing for them, or you want to forget that you even wasted your time with them, starting fresh isn’t as easy as it sounds. To make things worse, some relationship breakdowns aren’t just as simple as not being together anymore. We’ve all been in a position where an ex is making life difficult, so if you’re looking to move on with the next chapter of your life, take a look at these tips on how to deal with a difficult ex.
Surround yourself with people on your side
One thing that relationship breakdowns can bring is the feeling of loneliness, and when you’ve got a difficult ex on your back, it may feel like you’re being attacked from all angles. Surround yourself with family members and friends to talk to and help you through this difficult time. Perhaps any contact could be made through a friend to save you having to speak to your ex and make this transition that little bit easier. Either way, having those you love around you will certainly help!
Deal with the difficult parts as soon as possible
Sometimes in relationships you build things together that aren’t easy to deal with once you break up. Children, pets, and homes are often the biggest thing that ex couples argue about, and the longer that you leave it to come to an agreement, the longer your ex will be in your life. Hire yourself an experienced divorce attorney to help split what you’ve built together and get the difficult parts out of the way as soon as possible. If you’re not married, you should also mediate what you’ve built together sooner rather than later so that you can move on with your life.
Block all forms of contact
There’s nothing worse than trying to move on with your life and constantly having an ex pop up in your life. Block all forms of contact (if possible) so that you’re not constantly reminded of them. This includes social media profiles. We get that sometimes it’s not possible to block them completely if you have children together and if this is the case for you, use one form of contact only so that you can dust yourself off and get on with moving forward with your life.
Take some time for yourself
Finally, it’s important to make sure that you’re taking care of yourself during this difficult period in your life. Take yourself off to the salon for a good old pampering, take a long bath, meet up with the girls, read a good book - you get the idea. Take time for yourself so that you’re able to realise that life isn’t and will no longer be about your ex. You’re stronger than you think and we know that you can do this!