Why Are Millennials Bad At Relationships?

You might not think it’s true, but the numbers are in and they make for awkward reading. According to the Pew Research Center, only 20% of adults aged 18-29 are married today. Compare that with 1960, and the figure was nearly 60%. On top of that, Gallop says that 64% of men and women from the same age bracket aren’t living with a partner. It seems as if Nana has a point.

Granted, the stats don’t tell the whole story because society has changed a lot in the last fifty years. Still, even if it doesn’t mean we’re bad at relationships, we’re struggling compared to the generations of yesteryear.

So, what are the causes? Read on to find out more.

Dating Is Tough


And not just the let’s-go-for-a-drink type of dating. Meeting someone in the first place can be tricky even with dating apps. A mere 8% of people who are in a relationship met via Tinder or Bumble or any other kind of platform. Although there are more than 2,500 sites and apps alone in the US, the hit rate is incredibly low. What with the level of choice and the fake profiles, it’s hard to connect with a person that is trustworthy and genuine.

The Internet Is Everywhere

Take one look around and it isn’t difficult to see the influence of the online world. Nowadays, a text message is less than one second away. In the past, people had to turn up at a romantic interest’s door and talk to them face-to-face. What a novelty! In the 21st century, we can not only communicate constantly but we can tell when someone is ignoring us. We see those double blue ticks, boys: we’re not stupid. There is a level of clinginess which never existed before the dawn of the World Wide Web. New couples, when they do meet, don’t have enough distance.

Society Has A Quick Fix

When we have a toothache and need an emergency dentist, what do we do? What about when the boiler goes kaput and we need a plumber? The answer is to call a 24-hour service and pay for a quick fix. The same mentality is creeping into relationships as millennials are prepared to quit before trying to repair what’s broken. Divorce lawyers are the easy choice as everybody wants the end to be as painless as possible. Compared to the baby boomers, they would rather die than admit there was something they couldn’t fix.

Relationship Over A Commitment

A weird thing has happened where people are dating without defining the roles of the relationship. Everything they do, from having sex to going to the movies, is the same as a regular BF and GF yet they don’t want to label what they have. Instead, these men and women go for the idea of a relationship without the commitment. Again, we are programmed to drop our responsibilities at the first sign of trouble. For a couple, this is only going to end badly.


Millennials tackle things differently compared to our parents, and it impacts our love lives.