Since marriage is work, you deserve to be able to take some Life PTO from juggling all the responsibilities of adulting sometimes, no?!! I mean, where's a Mental Health Day when you need it?! Or is it just me?

As a millennial woman today, especially a millennial wife, you have to wear so many hats and you have to wear them well. You have to take care of your family, check in on your friends, figure out what it is you want to do in life and excel in your career, stay healthy, keep yourself up, help people, have goals, and be happy!

Just typing all that is making my head hurt lol. Sometimes you just need a break from working, cleaning, worrying, thinking, and just being around people. Just be still.

Well if you're anything like me taking a break is not an easy thing to do. I always feel like I have to DO something, and if I take a break then I will miss something or I'm being lazy.

It is so easy for me to agree to everything and then just want to give up and not do any of it, because I am overwhelmed by what's on my plate. As a creative person, I have a lot of ideas and I want to do everything right now and all at once and that is simply impossible. As a giver and loyal supporter to my friends and family, I want to help everyone and I burn myself out.


After my birthday, I had to take some Life PTO from the blog and social media in general to get my mind right. It was hard, because I love to connect with people, but I’m all about self care as well. June seemed to be the perfect timing to take some PTO because my husband went away for almost a week, the weather is perfect for the pool, and it is the only month that is clear on my schedule. I really needed a break!

On this break, I actually rested and became content with doing nothing without feeling like a "bum".  I was able to just live my life without posting about it on social media or seeing updates about how other people were living. I’m typically on the extreme end of going full speed girl on the move and trying to keep up with myself, but not this time. I’m growing up! The things I find in life that matter are changing. I see things so different now and some things that I thought really mattered like keeping all the friends I've ever had happy and acknowledged, only wearing my outfits once, staying connected to EVERYONE, and always having something to do. Those things don’t matter anymore.

My husband told me the other day that the fact that I have a lot going on is one of the things he loves about me. It was really sweet, but all it really did was add a little pressure because I needed this time to do nothing. Right now I'm focused on my relationship with God and fulfilling my purpose in life. I needed this time to spend with him and pray for guidance to do his will.

Although I love to live in the moment and not have any obligations, all of that goes out of the window when you reach adulthood. Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one having to hustle and have side hustles and sacrifice in order to make life work for me. Then I snap back into reality and remember that we are all struggling, some people are just better at hiding it. What works for you may not work for me and vice versa. So stop comparing yourself, stop worrying, put the phone down, and just take a break!

Do YOU need some PTO?

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