The Millennial Wives Club had the opportunity to sit down and talk to Millennial Wife and New Mom Tisha, the millennial mom and wife behind The EducateDancer Studio. We wanted to highlight Tisha because of her transparency on social media about being a new mom.
We talked finding balance, not feeling pressure to portray a “put together” lifestyle, and the importance of surrounding yourself around other millennial wives and moms.
Check out her interview below!
MWC: Give us an overview of the evolution of Tisha in regards to the woman you were and the woman you are today. What advice would you give to your younger self?
TISHA: I have always been a confident person. Being involved in dance has always been my source of personal growth; however, it has also been a part of my biggest struggles. Dealing with leadership development, learning about business, challenges on who to associate myself with based on my personal morals and life goals, etc. My 15+ plus year relationship with dance has given me a lot and the biggest thing I’ve learned that I would tell my younger self is to trust who she is and what she feels. Do not apologize for taking care of yourself because if your cup is empty then you won’t have anything to give. Limit the amount of time and energy you give to sources and outlets that don’t serve your purpose, i.e negative social media pages and reality shows. Last but not least, make sure you keep a mentor and stay in rooms with people you can grow from.
MWC: Growing up, what were your thoughts on becoming a mother one day? How did your upbringing influence those thoughts?
TISHA: Interesting enough, I was never pressed to become a mother, lol. If anything my main thought process about motherhood was “ I want to have my life together before I bring a child into this world.” My mother had me at 19 and I watched her work more than one job my entire childhood. My mother talks to me now about how she felt as if my sister and I grew so fast and she missed all of those key moments because she had to provide. So, experiencing that with my mother and hearing her speak about her experiences really had an impact on my thoughts of becoming a mother.
MWC: How did you and your husband meet? How did you know you were ready to be someone’s wife?
TISHA: My husband and I met in college our freshman year; however, we remained friends until our senior year of college. We dated for 3 years before he proposed, but of course had discussions about marriage. I don’t think things like marriage and parenthood are experiences you can “know” you’re ready for. I think we simply get to a point in our lives where we know we are ready for the commitment that come with those things. After being with my husband and experiencing highs and lows together, watching his dedication to our relationship and me, and the mutual understanding we have about loving our friendship. I knew this was someone I could spend the rest of my life with. We are really best friends and have unconditional love. Im talking loving the great and really bad things about each other.
MWC: You are a Wife, New Mother, and a Boss! What struggles are having with finding balance, if any? Do you give one role more attention than the other?
TISHA: I am currently struggling with finding the balance as we speak. As I’m doing this interview my husband is bouncing my daughter on his lap to keep her quiet so I can have some time to answer your questions. Most if not all of my time is going to my daughter who is 2 months old. This transition is still all very new for me and each day is a learning curve. I own and operate a dance studio and I am completing my natural hair care license all while being a wife and a mom! It’s just not enough time in the day ! But nothing comes before my daughter, so as I try to plan and schedule things out to the best of my ability I take everything one day at a time.
MWC: Tell us about your studio “The EducateDancer Studio”. What inspired/motivated you to start it? What have you learned through the process?
TISHA: My dance studio offers classes for ages 3- adult in different genres such as ballet, hip-hop, Tap, jazz, and tumbling. I have a holistic teaching philosophy when it comes to my dancers. I like to build the entire learner (more than just dance) so that they are prepared to be leaders and confident young women throughout their lives.
I was inspired to open a dance studio because I was challenged by a professional dancer with quitting my Masters program or having a dance career. I was disappointed that someone I looked up to in the industry recommended that I give up on furthering my education. I wanted that mindset to shift and I want dancers to know you can be educated and an artist. This is where I came up with the name EducateDancer.
MWC: Anyone you want to thank for helping you through parenthood? What have you learned from them?
TISHA: My mother, husband, and doula were so instrumental in my birthing process. My birth story is another interview by itself. But they were extremely helpful. I would also have to thank my best friends who check on me, give me advice, and truly help to make sure that my mental is in a good space. There are too many to name, but I am thankful for them all. I’ve been able to get through and continue to breastfeed because of them. Breastfeeding was my biggest hump after childbirth. It is not easy and extremely demanding. I am proud of myself and I tell myself daily.
MWC: How has imagining motherhood been different from the reality of motherhood?
TISHA: I completely underestimated motherhood and I blame all the amazing women in my life who made it look easy, lol. I imagined straight fun (because that’s my whole personality). I pictured playing, laughing, making up dances, matching outfits, and taking cute pictures, lol. I knew there would be work of course, but I never in a million years could have imagined what this process would do to me mentally and physically. You are truly reborn and as I am loving and raising my daughter, I am loving and getting to know my new self.
MWC: What are you currently working on? Any upcoming projects? New Goals?
TISHA: Currently I am building upon my Dance Studio. I am working to of course get better each year, my newest project is the beauty industry. I will be wrapping up classes this month and I am excited to combine two things I love beauty and the performing arts.
MWC: How important on a scale 1-10 is it to surround yourself with other wives or mothers?
TISHA: Can I say 11 because it’s super important. I’ll be attending a postpartum group with some moms in the area to just learn from other moms, but to also have that support from someone who mentally and physically know and feel everything that I have. It can save your life because postpartum depression is real and in the future I plan on sharing how I was I was able to escape it. I say escape because I feel as if I had to work extremely hard to run from postpartum depression. There are so many encounters I can remember where I felt as if I was slipping into a depression. I could recognize it immediately because I have never felt this way before. But by having a group of support and seeking that support I am able to be the best mom to my daughter. So yes, having a group is important.
MWC: As a wife and now mother, do you feel pressure to portray a more “put together” and positive image of those roles? Do you appreciate other platforms showing the realities of these roles? Why or why not?
TISHA: I am quite the opposite. I love to show how I have to get up and start getting ready 3-4 hours before I have to leave the house, or how I’ve been trapped under a baby for 2 hours etc. In no way do I want this to look like a put together dream because that is a lie and I want to further promote how much support moms and parents need. Especially new parents. I appreciate platforms that show these realities because I feel it can help with preparation. I also like that it doesn’t promote a false reality.